This core attitude can express itself in many ways, but notice how the response to each problem described here is meant to punish or blame the other person(s) involved. • A father is struggling to fix a broken toy. He erupts into a tirade of profanity, slams the toy to the floor and blames the child for breaking it. • A couple is talking about hiring a technician to do electrical work. When the wife asks about affordability, it quickly escalates into an argument. The husband is so annoyed by the